The Highly Sensitive Person in Love

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3. HSPs and the Fear of Intimacy

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5. Revise your assumptions. Periodically reflect on your fears of intimacy as realistically as possible, because as you progress, it will be easier to talk yourself out of them. Sometimes a "gut fear" established in infancy will never go away, but it can be overridden by thinking to yourself: "I know this fear is meant to protect me, but it's like a false alarm--I do not need to act on it. I appreciate the warning very much, but I think I will ignore it."

4. HSPs with Non-HSPs

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7. Learn to increase your volume to a level the non-HSP can hear. It is very important to realize that the way you like to be addressed -- subtly, softly, indirectly -- will not always be heard bu a non-HSP. ... Not, "Gee, I'm getting cold," but, "Would you please turn up the heat?" HSPs can "take hints" al too well, but non-HSPs often miss them. (This suggestion is also essential with non-HSPs in the workplace, by the way.