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首先他人并不一定在观察你，就算不能改变他人在观察你的事实，我们也可以尝试改变自己的想法，不要让他人影响自己的表现。
首先他人并不一定在观察你，就算不能改变他人在观察你的事实，我们也可以尝试改变自己的想法，不要让他人影响自己的表现。
== Overcoming Social Discomfort ==
P130
=== Avoid "negative self-talk" ===
Negative self-talk (e.g. "He probably won't like me" or "I'll probably fail as I always do") keeps you aroused and makes it hard to listen to the other person.
尽量不要想一些自己负面的东西。它不一定是真的，也会影响自己的发挥。
=== 接受 rejections ===
People can reject you for all sorts of reasons '''having nothing to do with you'''. If it upsets you, feel that for a moment. Then try to let it go.
=== Have a plan for overcoming your social discomfort ===
Decide to take so many specific, gradual steps per day or week '''no matter how nervous the first steps make you'''.
做了计划就要尽力去执行。
=== Rehearse ===
It is best to rehearse what you'll say with a new person or in a new situation. The more you rehearse, the less nervous you'll be -- which means you'll be more, not less, relaxed and spontaneous.
如果有时间，可以先预想一下即将发生的对话。
== 其它摘抄 ==
== 其它摘抄 ==